If you’re like most pleasure seekers, then you’ve likely tried your share of different masturbation techniques over the years. You’ve discovered the magic a cleverly positioned showerhead stream can bring to the table, not to mention a really great vibrator or a willing partner. But you can’t call your roster of experiences complete until you’ve also tried it through your panties.
Through-the-panties masturbation is more than just great fodder for porn and erotica. Whether you try it on your own or explore the possibilities with a partner, it’s truly its own experience and well worth exploring. Here we’ll go over why, as well as how you can get the most out of it.
Why You Should Try It
Despite the fact that there’s lots and lots of porn out there that involves through-the-panties masturbation, most women simply dismiss it as a male fantasy with no real value to them. After all, many women have trouble reaching orgasm as it is, so it doesn’t make sense to them to have a piece of cloth in the way when they self-serve. However, there are some definite benefits to giving it a try.
For one thing, anything that’s different can be pretty exciting, so there’s a novelty factor to consider. Plus, various fabrics can bring brand-new sensations to the table, each one unique and potentially appealing in its own way. And if you’re one of the many women who can sometimes feel overstimulated when masturbating, the added barrier can actually make it easier to control the intensity.
How to Do It
As is the case with any new bedroom activity, what works best with this can vary a lot from person to person. So, start with the following tips. Then fine-tune your approach until you hit on what does the trick for you personally.
Take your time
The best time to explore something new in the bedroom, either on your own or with a partner, is when you’re extra turned on and really ready to rock. So, you can either wait until the next time you’re really in the mood to get off, or you can deliberately set the stage a little.
Spend some time indulging in porn or erotica that gets you super turned on. Build some anticipation throughout the day by fantasizing, sexting with your partner, or taking sexy selfies to put yourself in the mood. The more aroused you are when you start, the easier it will be to maximize your experience.
Try different touch techniques
One thing you’ll notice right away when masturbating through your panties is how different all those familiar sensations will feel. In fact, you may discover that some of your go-to approaches aren’t as appealing, while others you maybe never cared for much before now feel incredible, so definitely try some different options on for size.
Try both direct and indirect clitoral stimulation. Experiment with stimulating other portions of your vulva, as well, as the entire area is incredibly nerve-rich. Just take your time, explore every possibility, and take note of how each one makes you feel.
Change things up and experiment
Once you’re used to the experience of through-the-panties masturbation and have a better read on what works best for you, start experimenting a little. Try panties in lots of different fabrics and take note of the different ways they change the experience for you. Silky, slippery satin can offer a whole different set of sensations as compared to lace or cotton.
Try adding some of your favorite sex toys to the mix, as well. See how different vibrators feel when experienced through your panties, or try stimulating your nipples and other sensitive areas at the same time to add some depth.
Include your partner
There’s a reason why porn that involves women masturbating through their panties (or allowing their partners to touch them that way) is so popular. Underwear is sexy, sensual, and extremely erotic to many people out there, and there’s a good chance your partner is one of them.
So don’t be afraid to get your partner involved. Invite them to touch you through your panties as part of foreplay or a little semi-public hanky-panky. Go back to what you learned by experimenting with it yourself, and teach them how you like it done. It could turn out to be a smoking-hot experience for both of you.
At the end of the day, it’s never a bad idea to experiment between the sheets, including when it comes to masturbation. Because variety is more than just a great way to keep things from being boring or slipping into a rut. It opens the door to endless ways to learn about one’s self, as well, so don’t be afraid to explore and experiment.
